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Men and the Mother Wound

"Any man who is consciously, actively working on his Mother Wound deserves support, understanding, and patience."

My name is Rick Belden. During my thirty years of exploring and chronicling the psychology and inner lives of men in my work as a poet, author, artist, and men's coach, I've discovered that many men are suffering, as I have been, from a form of emotional and psychological damage I have come to refer to as a Mother Wound.

On this site, you will find a short introduction to the Mother Wound as I define it in my work, as well as links to some resources (some from me and some from others) that can help you begin to understand what a Mother Wound is and how it may be affecting you as a man.

This information may also be of benefit to women, as an aid in understanding the men in their lives. Many women are also affected by their own Mother Wounds, so much of the information included here may be useful for them in that way as well.

 

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Overview of the Mother Wound

What is a Mother Wound?

A Mother Wound may be thought of as injury to the psyche of a child resulting from significant dysfunction or disruption in relationship with the mother.

In some cases, it is the result of a mother’s absence or unavailability due to death, illness, adoption, or other circumstances that dramatically separate the child from the mother.

But more typically, a Mother Wound is a complex of injuries to the child’s psyche received over many years, often as a result of the mother acting, consciously or not, out of her own woundedness.

One of the most severe kinds of psychic wounding occurs when the child’s primary function in the relationship is to be used by the mother to meet her own narcissistic needs.


How are men affected?

The complex internal dynamics associated with narcissistic maternal wounding can have multiple effects and consequences that extend deep into the core of a man, rippling outward into all areas of his life and diminishing his ability to own and express his sexual energy and power in the healthy, creative ways needed to develop and maintain successful long-term love relationships and a working life that is authentic, heartfelt, and meaningful.


Why does it matter?

We simply cannot have an emotionally and psychologically healthy society without emotionally and psychologically healthy men.

Men being driven by the emotional and psychological energy of unconscious, unresolved Mother Wounds will continue to suffer, and their suffering will continue to ripple out into their relationships and the culture at large, until their needs are recognized, honored, and addressed in a meaningful and effective fashion.

Resources to help you learn about the Mother Wound

My articles and podcasts

The following information is available to help you learn more about my work with the Mother Wound in men (and women):


My poetry

If you're a man with an active, unresolved Mother Wound, you may recognize yourself in one of the following poems I wrote while exploring my own Mother Wound:

 


Additional Resources

Here is some information from other sources to help you learn more about the Mother Wound in men:

 

You don't have to "just live with it."

  Rick Belden: Poet / Author / Artist / Men's Coach    

Rick Belden: Poet / Author / Artist / Men's Coach

 

I have a great deal of experience, both personal and professional, with the process and the experience of exploring, understanding, and healing Mother Wounds in order to decrease or even eliminate their negative, often hidden influence on your life.

If you're a man (or a woman) who feels some resonance with the material I've provided on this page, I invite you to visit my coaching website by clicking below to sign up for a free one-hour discovery session so we can explore your current situation and begin to identify a productive path forward for you.